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Top 10 Reasons People Get Divorced

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Couples often experience a variety of marital stressors. The way each couple comes together and relates to one another will define whether the relationship is healthy or headed for divorce. Below are ten top reasons couples get divorced. 

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1. Communication

At the core of every successful relationship is communication. Financial disagreements and infidelity are a few reasons a couple may choose to divorce. Many individuals don’t realize these conflicts are often grounded in the disintegration of communication within the relationship. 

2. Lack of Intimacy

When intimacy fades, partners can feel rejected, unappreciated, and unloved. These feelings can lead to other issues like infidelity and disagreements. 

3. Infidelity

Emotional and physical affairs are sure signs of unhealthy communication. Cheating can result in a lack of trust that often permanently damages the relationship.

4. Finances

Financial disputes can be over how (and when) money is spent, saved, made, or even pre-existing debt(s). Financial control sometimes coincides with abuse and addiction and can leave one partner feeling powerless.

5. Addictions

Alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, work, and other damaging vices are often cited as contributing factors in divorce. When an addict continuously refuses help or becomes a threat, his or her partner is likely to pursue a divorce.

6. Abuse

Abuse can be physical, emotional, and financial, involving various sources of behavior. Remaining in a chronically abusive marriage is not healthy or safe for the abused partner.

7. Young Marriage

Couples marrying young are more likely to have financial disputes because their careers aren’t established yet. Immaturity in communication skills can yield intensified conversations. Having children adds strain to these already stressful situations.

8. Wrong Reasons

Relationships have highs and lows, but there should be a noticeable, natural flow. Some marriages begin before the couple has had time to know the flow. A partner may also have wanted to “save” the other from some sort of vice. Overall, partners who marry for the wrong reasons often choose divorce later.

9. Identity

Maintaining a sense of identity is important. Couples can quickly lose their individuality. Marriage can take individuals down heavily integrated paths, leading to a loss of identity.

10. Incompatibility

Misalignment on topics like core values, religion, and how to live can cause altercations. Couples will often drift apart in visions for the future and lose passions they once shared.

A divorce lawyer often helps resolve disputes during this confusing, life-changing, and stressful time. 

Uncontested divorce lawyer Denise Erlich is passionate about helping divorcing couples in the greater Chicagoland area transition to their new life as seamlessly as possible. Ms. Erlich patiently guides her clients through every step of the divorce process and provides clients with candid advice about their case and legal options, so they can make informed decisions about their future.

Years of Experience: More than 20 years
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